Want to inject more happiness into your own life?
Start by writing a thank-you letter to someone else!
The Thank-You Project tells the story of the year that writer/podcaster Nancy Davis Kho wrote thank-you letters to 50 people, places, and pastimes that had shaped her, inspired her, and helped her become the person she was. The list of recipients included family and friends, of course, but soon expanded to teachers, bosses, mentors, authors, cities, hobbies and even a handful of ex-boyfriends and former friends. (Don’t worry, turns out you don’t have to mail every letter you write to yield the happiness benefits of gratitude!) It was a wholly unexpected way to find more peace during what turned out to be a trying and turbulent time, and continues to yield benefits years down the road.
Using her own story as a springboard and the emerging science of happiness to understand why gratitude letters work, Nancy gives practical and reassuring guidance to her readers who want to start their own Thank-You Project. The book will make you laugh, think, and start drafting your list of letter recipients by the end of Chapter 1.
Praise for THE THANK-YOU PROJECT
“An excellent reminder to regularly reflect on those who have helped you throughout your life.”—USA Today’s YES Magazine
“I love THE THANK-YOU PROJECT and it’s inspiring me to be more grateful in my life, which is a very good thing.”
—Jenny Lawson, author of Furiously Happy and Let’s Pretend This Never Happened
“Dear Nancy, What a great idea! Thank you for sharing your wit, wisdom, excellent penmanship, and generous heart. You have left the world a more thankful place. I’m sure many will benefit from your gratitude.”
— Bruce Feiler, author of The Secrets of Happy Families and The Council of Dads
“What I love most about this joyful, life-affirming guide is that it feels like a letter itself, written to me by a smart, kind friend who truly cares about helping me be happier — and knows just how I can do it.”
– Mary Laura Philpott, author of I Miss You When I Blink
“This warm-hearted, joyful book brims with practical experience and good stories. It is truly something to be thankful for, because it reminds us all of the miracle that is gratitude.”
—Jonathan Rauch, author of The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
“After reading’s Nancy delightful book, I have added the Thank-You Project to my list of life goals. She has managed to create an inspirational, yet refreshingly unsentimental treatise on gratitude. With poignancy rooted in her story of loss, and practical tips that include writing prompts and her ‘three S’s’ method, you will notice and savor more examples of goodness in your life and feel authentically happier.”
— Kelsey Crowe, co-author of There Is No Good Card For This: What To Do and Say When Life is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to the People You Love
“I am sold. With warmth, humor and the kind of joy that can only from knowing that things get tough and you’re still standing, Nancy Davis Kho convinced me to start my own Thank-You Note project—even though I’m pretty sure I still owe my Aunt Judy one from my tenth birthday. This is a book I’ll be thinking about and sharing for years to come.”
—KJ Dell’Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent,
and lead editor of former New York Times blog The Motherlode
“Research shows that writing a gratitude letter affirms positive things in your life and reminds you how others have cared for you; life seems less bleak and lonely if someone has taken such a supportive interest in us. Nancy Davis Kho’s The Thank-You Project gives readers the tools, the motivation, and the direction to write such letters—and entertains them in the process.”
—Christine Carter, PhD, sociologist and senior fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center,
and author of Raising Happiness and The Sweet Spot
Midlife Mixtape: The Podcast
A podcast to celebrate midlife with humor, heart, and a really good beat. In each episode, writer Nancy Davis Kho of MidlifeMixtape.com interviews GenXers and icons of Generation X about how they’re thriving in the years between being hip and breaking one. From discussing their first concerts, to what’s easier and harder than they expected at midlife, to what piece of advice they’d give their younger selves, Nancy and her guests will inspire, entertain, and maybe even make you feel stoked to be stuck in the middle.
Midlife Mixtape: The Blog
Tuesday, April 27th, 2021
“It means different things all the time, but it always works”: Listeners share stories of the music of their lives, from Prince to Joni Mitchell to The Beastie Boys and everyone in between.
Tuesday, April 13th, 2021
“Shouldn’t take a miracle”: Tracey Milligan, whose foundation provides services for victims of domestic violence, on hard work, serendipity, and “angels” along the way, plus her recent pi
Tuesday, March 30th, 2021
“Practice a certain acceptance”: Dr. Leslie Kernisan, MD, MPH and founder of the Better Health While Aging website and podcast, on how adult children can ask better questions and accept subopti
Tuesday, March 2nd, 2021
“The opposite of play is perfection”: Jeff Harry, positive play coach, on using play to navigate hard conversations and relationships, the inspirational power of boredom, and why the pandemic i
Wednesday, February 24th, 2021
What would it be like to have those kinds of conversations taking place, all the time? I’m picturing a 24/7 hotline where anyone can request or place a call to someone in another part of the coun